<p>Face-to-face socializing in America has declined by more than 20% nationwide. Among some groups, like young adults and unmarried men, the drop is closer to 40%.</p><p>But strangely, this hasn’t led to the loneliness epidemic that you hear so much about. Instead, we’re seeing a new phenomenon: rising aloneness without rising loneliness.</p><p>Today on the show, Derek Thompson will help us understand this puzzling disconnect and its profound implications. Derek is a staff writer at <i>The Atlantic</i> who recently wrote a piece entitled <a href="https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2025/02/american-loneliness-personality-politics/681091/">“The Anti-Social Century.”</a> In the first half of our conversation, Derek unpacks the cultural shifts and technological developments — and no, it’s not just the smartphone — that have created what he calls the “convenience curse.” We then get into why even self-described introverts are often happier when forced to socialize, the concerning trend of young men settling further and further into isolating, sedentary leisure, and practical ways we can strengthen our atrophied social muscles to become better, happier people.</p><h2><strong>Resources Related to the Podcast</strong></h2><ul><li><a href="https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/social-skills/the-importance-of-developing-and-maintaining-your-social-fitness/" target="_blank">AoM Article: The Importance of Developing and Maintaining Your Social Fitness</a></li><li><a href="https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/social-skills/podcast-742-the-power-of-strangers/" target="_blank">AoM Podcast #742: The Power of Talking to Strangers</a></li><li><a href="https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/social-skills/introversion-as-an-excuse/" target="_blank">AoM Article: Introversion as an Excuse</a></li><li><a href="https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/relationships/podcast-176-the-vanishing-neighbor-the-transformation-of-american-community/" target="_blank">AoM Podcast #176: The Vanishing Neighbor &amp; The Transformation of American Community</a></li><li><a href="https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/use-technology-like-the-amish/" target="_blank">AoM Article: Use Technology Like the Amish</a></li></ul><h2><strong>Connect With Derek Thompson</strong></h2><ul><li><a href="https://x.com/DKThomp" target="_blank">Derek on X</a></li></ul>

Face-to-face socializing in America has declined by more than 20% nationwide. Among some groups, like young adults and unmarried men, the drop is closer to 40%.

But strangely, this hasn’t led to the loneliness epidemic that you hear so much about. Instead, we’re seeing a new phenomenon: rising aloneness without rising loneliness.

Today on the show, Derek Thompson will help us understand this puzzling disconnect and its profound implications. Derek is a staff writer at The Atlantic who recently wrote a piece entitled “The Anti-Social Century.” In the first half of our conversation, Derek unpacks the cultural shifts and technological developments — and no, it’s not just the smartphone — that have created what he calls the “convenience curse.” We then get into why even self-described introverts are often happier when forced to socialize, the concerning trend of young men settling further and further into isolating, sedentary leisure, and practical ways we can strengthen our atrophied social muscles to become better, happier people.

No, There Isn’t a Loneliness Epidemic (And That May Be an Even Bigger Problem)